January 2017

Long time, no write. But, that’s nothing unusual for me, is it?

I’ve had so many thoughts in my head with no motivation to write them down. Until today, I suppose. The new year is always overwhelming for me. It’s a weird holiday jam packed right in between Christmas and my birthday which sends me into crisis mode with trying to formulate a “new year, new me” mentality. All in all, this year I gave up trying to create a “new me” after extreme stress started to eat away at me. Instead of re-inventing myself, I have realized it is more important to look at the key aspects of myself that make me the person I am. Instead of changing them, which never works, I can simply nurture them and make myself grow. This year I want to do things that will shape me into the best version of me possible, instead of distorting myself into someone I am not.

I want to embrace my inner “girl,” which has been an ongoing (and sometimes frustrating,) endeavor… I want to dress cuter sometimes, to learn to do my makeup better, to take better care of my appearance.

I want to nurture my inner “geek,” which I often ignore because it seems childish to me… I want to be proud of the things I love, like Lord of the Rings and Skyrim, not hide them in my own head.

I want to entice my inner “redneck,” which at some times I have been embarassed of… I want to be confident in the way I was raised and not care about the opinions of others based on my lifestyle.

All in all, I want to be a better person: a better friend, a better sister, a better daughter, a better auntie, a better girlfriend. I want to think less selfishly, less irrationally, be less worrisome, less lazy, and be more patient & courteous. I want to be more gracious and more compassionate. I want to live healthier and self-aware. I want to rekindle my faith, and rejuvenate my passions.

For a long time I have been stuck in my own head, but now it’s time to breathe the fresh air and take a few steps back.

Here’s to 2017 being the best year possible.

x
stephanie

Fall 2016 Bucket List

Because my Summer bucket list was an epic failure, let’s try this again. Who’s willing to cross some of these off with me?

+ Visit a winery
+ Spend a weekend on the Northshore
+ Watch the stars by a campfire
+ Go to an orchard/pumpkin patch
+ Carve pumpkins
+ Go for a drive to see the changing leaves
+ Hike around some state parks
+ Renaissance Festival
+ Visit the zoo
+ Watch scary movies while drinking apple cider
+ Zombie Pub Crawl
+ Haunted House
+ Valley Scare

Respect in America

Firstly, let me state a disclaimer. I am not here to offend, I am not here to start a debate, I am only here to state my own personal opinion through my 1st amendment right of freedom of speech. Let’s look at the official definition…

free·dom of speech

noun
 1. the right to express any opinions without censorship or restraint.

 Recently, I have been extremely disappointed in society.
Everyone is pointing the finger at someone else in recent events. Race, guns,corruption, etc. But, in all honestly, I think the blame lies on a lack of respect and a lack of morality.
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The United States of America is a country meant to be UNITED, as our name suggests, but instead we are being torn apart by fear and hate. Why is it so hard for our society to act like decent human beings?
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We need to respect each other.
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 We all want the same things, deep down. We all want freedom, we all want to feel safe, and we all want to be respected. So why are those things being  contested? Because, society cannot find middle ground.
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Remember the phrase, “start no shit, there will be none”?
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Respect your boundaries and the boundaries of others. If you have no boundaries, make them. We don’t have to turn to violence to solve our problems, that’s what civility and diplomacy are for. We’ve all been taught to fight for what we believe in, but fighting each other is not the answer. Violence is not the action to be taken in social issues.
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This country needs it’s people to stand together, not threatening each other.
What ever happened to the Preamble of the Constitution?   (Psst, here it is…)
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“We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.”
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I still have faith in this great country, but I’m losing faith in our people. So let’s stand together and work together for our common goal. Freedom.
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“We are all Americans, we share a common land and a common life.”

How far have I come?

To those who don’t know me, I may seem lazy, slow, or unmotivated. Somedays, maybe that is true. We all have those days. I will also admit, I know I do not work to my complete potential, but that’s because I know my limits. If I work as hard as  I know I can, I know I will burn out. That’s not fair to me or those around me.

This year has been hard for me; seeing many other people I graduated high school with now graduating college. I am still here, with a year of undergrad left. I have fallen behind, but not for lack of effort or lack of intelligence. I fell behind for lack of direction and lack of passion.

I should have graduated this year, and had I not changed majors three times, or transferred colleges late in my education- I would be graduating this spring. Looking back on this last semester especially, I have noticed that I am exactly where I am meant to be. I am finally in the major I love, working in a job I enjoy, and am moving ahead to the path I want to be on.

So, even if I am graduating a year behind schedule, at least I can be confident in what I am doing. As an English major, I have received more support, praise, and encouragement from my professors, my peers, and the people in my personal life than I ever have before. My grades are better than they have been since high school. I am happier, as a person, in general. But Ultimately, I feel like I am finally where I belong, so no, I do not regret being “behind” a year. If anything, I am grateful for it.

We all stumble at times, but what matters is how we pick ourselves back up and who helps us along the way.

 

Following up on on an old post…

If you are here to be an asshole, that is perfectly fine. But, let me tell you, I am not a spineless pushover of a woman. I will fight you tooth and nail to get some manners out of you. That’s the way my momma and daddy raised me. Not to take shit from anyone, especially if they are hiding on the other side of the screen.

Now, let me explain the point of the infamous post How to: Treat Her Like a Queen.

I did not make that post as a cry to “Chivalry is Dead” or whatever the fuck else you want to think of it as. The message is not to tell you how women are entitled to having these things done for them, that could not be further from the truth.

NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO ANYTHING.

Can you comprehend that? Because I can, and I’m a twenty-two year old girl. There is a saying I enjoy.

“Be thankful for what you have and work hard for what you don’t.”

So… What’s the problem there? Oh, there isn’t one? As I thought.

Did I step on your pride? On your feelings? Too bad, suck it up buttercup.

My job is not to serve YOU. My job is to be myself and  to help the people I care about. I CHOOSE KINDNESS.

We should ALL choose KINDNESS.

THAT is what that post was about. So, if that’s not your cup of tea, guess what, NO ONE ASKED YOU. So take those hands you use to “tweet” all these mindless self-serving pieces of thought and DO SOMETHING with them. If you can’t find something to do, then just sit on them.

Because, as I hope your parents taught you, if you don’t have anything kind to say to someone, don’t say anything at all.

I’m done fighting on something that was never even the issue in my writing. This is a personal blog, and if you don’t like it. Please, allow the door to hit you on your way out.

Someday’s dreams:

Someday:
I want a big kitchen where I can cook anything and everything.
I want to have a cold beer waiting for my man when he’s done with a long day of work.
I want to have a night every week dedicated to “family movie night”
I want to have a craft room where my kids and I can be outrageously messy and creative.
I want to have game nights with the neighbors/our friends once a month or so.
I want to have “Sunday Supper” every week where everyone sits down as a family.
I want to have a back yard where my dog can run and play to its hearts content.
I want an herb garden to tend to and harvest.
I want to have an office full of books and little obscure things.
I want to have a front porch with two rocking chairs.
I want a cabin on a lake surrounded by the woods.
I want wood floors and big windows.
I want a vinyl collection that would make the classics proud.
I want a good life.

 

Universal Truths of My Life

  1. There is no such thing as “too much flannel.”
  2. When in doubt, choose whiskey.
  3. Travelling is good for the soul.
  4. Always choose enough sleep over anything.
  5. Knowledge is power, but imagination is the key to success.
  6. Led Zeppelin will always be the best band of all time.
  7. You don’t know until you try.
  8. Dogs are a girl’s best friend.
  9. Candles and incense are necessities.
  10. Follow your heart and have no regrets.
  11. Coffee is indeed the lifeblood of a writer.
  12. Make time for those who love you.
  13. Dogs are better than cats.