What I’m striving for…

I’ve always been the kind of person to plan. I shoot for my goals and don’t give up easily… But, with that in mind, I’ve also always been the person to come up with back up plans too.
Here are some goals I have put in place for myself in the next year in no particular order (and a half? I mean… wiggle room is great.)

  • continue to achieve my fitness goals (I’m proud to say I’ve been consistent so far, so lets keep that up!)
  • get some of my work published (short stories, poetry, and non-fiction.)
  • graduate (this one is a given, and on track.)
  • get  an internship in editing/publishing (or a full-time job preferably.)
  • buy a Jeep Wrangler (and hopefully start customizing it.)
  • surround myself with positivity (no more insecurity, no more toxic people.)
  • be confident in myself and my abilities without second thoughts (getting better already!)
  • travel (anywhere, anytime. I crave adventure.)

I try to set goals that aren’t outlandish or unrealistic. I try to live within my means and do all I can to be a better person. For most of my life, I have not focused on myself very well. So, why not start being better about that now?

I hope this has maybe inspired some of you to also make a list of personal goals that you’d like to achieve in the next year or two. Good luck to you all!

x

As a writer, I wonder…

I write about people, whether it’s blatantly in a journal, or just stolen details about them to write into my stories. I’ve written about both strangers and people I care about. I’ve written things from memories and things from imagination. I’ve seen a glimpse of a person, and written an entire character around them. I’ve lived a memory and taken inspiration from the people involved. I’ve imagined the lives of others around me, and challenged myself to think as they might. But then I wonder, has anyone done this for me?

I wonder if anyone has written something because I’ve inspired them.
I wonder if anyone has written about me, or made a character that resembles me in someway.
I wonder if anyone has written memories of me, or made some up instead.
I wonder if anyone has written about how I’ve made them feel, or how they’ve made me feel

I just can’t help but wonder.

Respect in America

Firstly, let me state a disclaimer. I am not here to offend, I am not here to start a debate, I am only here to state my own personal opinion through my 1st amendment right of freedom of speech. Let’s look at the official definition…

free·dom of speech

noun
 1. the right to express any opinions without censorship or restraint.

 Recently, I have been extremely disappointed in society.
Everyone is pointing the finger at someone else in recent events. Race, guns,corruption, etc. But, in all honestly, I think the blame lies on a lack of respect and a lack of morality.
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The United States of America is a country meant to be UNITED, as our name suggests, but instead we are being torn apart by fear and hate. Why is it so hard for our society to act like decent human beings?
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We need to respect each other.
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 We all want the same things, deep down. We all want freedom, we all want to feel safe, and we all want to be respected. So why are those things being  contested? Because, society cannot find middle ground.
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Remember the phrase, “start no shit, there will be none”?
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Respect your boundaries and the boundaries of others. If you have no boundaries, make them. We don’t have to turn to violence to solve our problems, that’s what civility and diplomacy are for. We’ve all been taught to fight for what we believe in, but fighting each other is not the answer. Violence is not the action to be taken in social issues.
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This country needs it’s people to stand together, not threatening each other.
What ever happened to the Preamble of the Constitution?   (Psst, here it is…)
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“We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.”
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I still have faith in this great country, but I’m losing faith in our people. So let’s stand together and work together for our common goal. Freedom.
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“We are all Americans, we share a common land and a common life.”

Summer

I have had people tell me that they “don’t have summer” anymore. They say this because they work full time, or don’t get a summer break from school. It’s honestly one of my pet peeves to hear people say that they “don’t have summer.”

Summer is a season, it is a time of year. Saying you don’t have summer, is like saying you don’t have a birthday. It exists, whether you work or not. For us here in Minnesota, we are lucky if we get 3 or 4 solid months of warm weather. We get those 3 or 4 months to enjoy being outdoors. We get those 3 or 4 months to make memories that we cannot accomplish in colder weather.

I hate when people make excuses not to do things in the Summer. Such as, “I’m too tired.” Suck it up, buttercup, and get outside. Go do something while you can.

If you don’t enjoy the summer while it is here, you have no right to complain about being stuck inside all winter.

How far have I come?

To those who don’t know me, I may seem lazy, slow, or unmotivated. Somedays, maybe that is true. We all have those days. I will also admit, I know I do not work to my complete potential, but that’s because I know my limits. If I work as hard as  I know I can, I know I will burn out. That’s not fair to me or those around me.

This year has been hard for me; seeing many other people I graduated high school with now graduating college. I am still here, with a year of undergrad left. I have fallen behind, but not for lack of effort or lack of intelligence. I fell behind for lack of direction and lack of passion.

I should have graduated this year, and had I not changed majors three times, or transferred colleges late in my education- I would be graduating this spring. Looking back on this last semester especially, I have noticed that I am exactly where I am meant to be. I am finally in the major I love, working in a job I enjoy, and am moving ahead to the path I want to be on.

So, even if I am graduating a year behind schedule, at least I can be confident in what I am doing. As an English major, I have received more support, praise, and encouragement from my professors, my peers, and the people in my personal life than I ever have before. My grades are better than they have been since high school. I am happier, as a person, in general. But Ultimately, I feel like I am finally where I belong, so no, I do not regret being “behind” a year. If anything, I am grateful for it.

We all stumble at times, but what matters is how we pick ourselves back up and who helps us along the way.

 

Wednesday Words of Wisdom – 05.04.2016

Been a while since I last posted one of these. So, forgive me if I’m a little rusty.

Today’s topic: Growing Up/Changes

Sometimes life with throw you a lot of big  changes in a short amount of time. Maybe you’re graduating or starting a new job, in the mean time maybe there are other things going on too- moving, paying off debt, trying to keep up with your friends and family, etc. When all of these things piles up, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and start to question yourself and what you want from life. Finding a balance is a good thing, even if it might be a challenge.

That’s where you need to stop worrying and realize that, more often than not, what you want has been there all along. Just because one thing in your life changes, it doesn’t mean that everything has to change. Remember things you enjoyed doing before everything went crazy, remember the people you care about and who care about you. Take time to yourself so that you can relax and not stress about things. Ask the people around you for some space, even if they want to smother you, if they really care about you they will understand.

It is hard to juggle multiple things at once, and it takes practice. But, if you’re on the right track, you’ll gain speed and become better and better as time goes on. Everyone has their rough patches, but what matters is being able to come out of them. If you can’t pull yourself out, look to the people around you, maybe they can offer you some better footing.

Most importantly, don’t forget how you got to where you are. There were troubles, there were hard times. But, you made it. You’re here. Did anyone help you along the way? Thank them. Did you achieve something you never thought possible? Be proud. All in all, never forget the people who are there to support you and don’t forget your self-worth.

We are all much better than we give ourselves credit for, and I know from my own experiences that it’s easy to overthink when things pile up. So just breathe, slow down, and appreciate everything around you. Don’t question whether you deserve to have good things in your life, and don’t worry about them disappearing. Just trust that everything is okay and be happy to be where you are. We are all blessed, and sometimes we forget that, but in the end everything will be exactly the way it is meant to be.

Have a great day.

x

Following up on on an old post…

If you are here to be an asshole, that is perfectly fine. But, let me tell you, I am not a spineless pushover of a woman. I will fight you tooth and nail to get some manners out of you. That’s the way my momma and daddy raised me. Not to take shit from anyone, especially if they are hiding on the other side of the screen.

Now, let me explain the point of the infamous post How to: Treat Her Like a Queen.

I did not make that post as a cry to “Chivalry is Dead” or whatever the fuck else you want to think of it as. The message is not to tell you how women are entitled to having these things done for them, that could not be further from the truth.

NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO ANYTHING.

Can you comprehend that? Because I can, and I’m a twenty-two year old girl. There is a saying I enjoy.

“Be thankful for what you have and work hard for what you don’t.”

So… What’s the problem there? Oh, there isn’t one? As I thought.

Did I step on your pride? On your feelings? Too bad, suck it up buttercup.

My job is not to serve YOU. My job is to be myself and  to help the people I care about. I CHOOSE KINDNESS.

We should ALL choose KINDNESS.

THAT is what that post was about. So, if that’s not your cup of tea, guess what, NO ONE ASKED YOU. So take those hands you use to “tweet” all these mindless self-serving pieces of thought and DO SOMETHING with them. If you can’t find something to do, then just sit on them.

Because, as I hope your parents taught you, if you don’t have anything kind to say to someone, don’t say anything at all.

I’m done fighting on something that was never even the issue in my writing. This is a personal blog, and if you don’t like it. Please, allow the door to hit you on your way out.